It’s become apparent to me that I have an attitude issue. I realized the severity of this problem yesterday during an intimate conversation between Michael and I. As we lie in bed after a truly unnecessary argument, we spoke about some of the current trials occurring in our lives right now. We have a lot going on. Between the stresses of work on both of our ends, finances and saving money, and uncertainty of the future, its safe to say I’m going a little crazy.

I told him just how overwhelmed I was feeling, and that I noticed it didn’t seem as if he was really too worried. He and I have two completely different personalities. He’s calm and collected. He handles all that life throws at him with a smile. A lot of times I feel like the whole world is coming down around me. I know the only reason I feel this way is because I feel this incessant need to hold everything together all of the time. I run rampant. When I told him how I was feeling he looked at me puzzled and told me, “Of course I’m affected. I’m really worried, but I have to keep a level head so I can be strong for you and for Riley. These things that you’re so worried about, aren’t things that we know the answers to right now. There’s going to be uncertainty. There’s no sense eating ourselves up over something we can’t control. In the end its all going to be okay. You just have to tell yourself that. It’s all going to be okay.” And just like that I understood I had a problem. He and I have the same things going on in our lives right now. We’re two people with the same problems, but opposite attitudes.

I have a bad attitude. I’ve allowed myself to cast a negative outlook about everything around me and its inevitably having a major effect on my life. I’ve been allowing myself to swim in an abundance of toxicity, that I myself created. I’ve developed a habit that hinders me from allowing myself to fully enjoy the many positives of my life. I’m a clinger. I’m a stage five negativity clinging Nancy. But I don’t want to be anymore. The negative energy I’m carrying around is only making my life more unpleasant. And because of this bad attitude, every problem that comes my way becomes a much bigger issue than it should. Negativity is consuming me.

So what do you do? What do you do when you know you need an attitude change but you don’t quite know what to do about it? Well I decided to give some positivity a try. If negativity is my issue, I assume the only way to rid myself of the issue is to combat it with positivity. Sometimes you can’t change all the curve balls that life throws at you, but what you can change is your attitude about them.

So I came up with a challenge. The Seven Day Attitude Adjustment Challenge. A week long positivity challenge. Seven days. That’s all it is. Seven days of being positive, appreciating more, and doing more for myself. Each day has an assigned task to better your outlook and mood. I’m really hoping it will be just the kick in the butt I need to change my outlook on things!  I’ll be beginning this challenge on July 31 and would love for you to follow along! Below you’ll find the infographic for the challenge if you’d like to join me. If you’d like to share your journey through the Attitude Adjustment Challenge feel free to use the hashtag #attitudeadjustmentchallenge on Instagram and as always feel free to follow me to keep up with all of the latest from @thefamilymaam

 

 

Good luck to all and I can’t wait to hear all about you your week goes! Feel free to leave your comments below to keep me in the loop about all that happens, and how your ‘tude changes!

25 Simple Ways to Incorporate Self-Care into Your Day

 

If there’s one thing I’ve come to learn about being a parent, it’s that it requires a lot of selflessness. That’s something I never really recognized until it directly effected me when I became such a strong figure in Riley’s life. Prior to that, my days revolved around me. I came and went as I pleased, and took care of only myself. My whole life was one big self-care session! The former me was selfish, and that’s okay. I needed to experience that time in my life, otherwise I don’t think I’d be successful at giving all that’s deserved to this little boy and his daddy.

This new role in my life gives me such an incredible appreciation for my own mother. She’s always done it all and done it well- even when she didn’t necessarily believe it. She’s the truest epitome of selflessness. I’m truly fortunate to have had such an incredible example set forth for me.

I think as women, most of us have a deep rooted desire to nurture. Mine was a little deeper down I think than most, but boy did it find me quickly! Now I find myself really striving to be the best partner and mother figure that I can be. But mamas, lets be real- it can be exhausting! And sometimes it’s easy to forget to fulfill our own individual needs that are just so incredibly essential for us to re-charge!

Self-care is a major component in keeping yourself happy and healthy. Women in particular are nearly twice as likely to suffer from major forms of depression than men. Which means we need to love ourselves a little more. That’s why it’s so important that we shift even the smallest bit of focus to ourselves each day, to provide us with the self-care we truly deserve. Incorporating even just a little self-care daily can allow you to respond better to stress, develop better resiliency, and can aid in decompressing- allowing you to avoid that ‘burnt out’ feeling.

Maybe it’s the change in the weather, the fact that I’m now working predominantly from home, or the sometimes redundant feeling of my daily tasks, but I myself have been feeling a little down, and a bit ‘burnt out’ lately. As someone who was diagnosed with depression nearly eight years ago, it’s extremely important for me to do what I can to keep my spirits up and avoid falling into an emotional slump. I’m reminding myself that just a little self-care goes a long way, and that it needs to be a priority for me not just when I’m feeling down, but every day.

So if you too are feeling your focus drift too far from yourself, I’ve compiled a list of 25 Simple Ways to Incorporate Self-Care into Your Day. They’re good for the body, mind, and soul. And they’re just enough to keep your mind at ease.

    1    Soak in a long hot bubble bath.

    2    Set aside some time to read your favorite novel.

    3    Unplug for an hour. Turn off the phone and computer.

    4    Do something you’ve been putting off for a while.

    5    Go for a walk. Take a route you don’t typically go.

    6    Meditate for ten minutes.

    7    Pay yourself a compliment.

    8    Write a journal entry or write creatively.

    9    Complete a random act of kindness.

    10    Get out in nature. Hike a trail or watch the waves on the beach.

    11    Listen to some of your favorite music.

    12    Make a list of things you’re thankful for.

    13    De-clutter one of your personal spaces.

    14    Enjoy a decadent dessert all to yourself.

    15    Sweat! Go for a run or have an intense workout session.

    16    Splurge on you. Get yourself a little something.

    17    Try a yoga class, or do a few calming poses at home.

    18    Vent to someone you care about.

    19    Try a new recipe.

    20    Make a list of short and long-term goals.

    21    Go for a drive.

    22    Take a nap.

    23    Enjoy a cup of coffee or herbal tea.

    24    Get creative! Paint, draw, or start a new DIY project!

    25    Sign up for a new class or activity.

 

Did you give them a go? Have more self-care ideas? I’d love to hear about your experiences and ideas in the comments below! Until then, you do you mama!

 

You Can Do It: How to Get Shit Done

You know exactly what I’m talking about. Your ‘to-do’ list is a mile and a half long, but you can’t even muster up the desire to get out of bed; much less put a dent in that list of yours. I’m nearly ashamed to say that this scenario is a genuine everyday occurrence for me. But I’m here to tell you there is hope! Though I can’t offer you a medically sound cure for your case of the lazies, I can offer you some pretty simple solutions to help get your butt in gear! Don’t fret my friend! You too can get shit done!

Get Your Priorities Straight. I think too often we are flooded with thoughts of the millions of things we have to do. It’s overwhelming. Have you ever seen that meme that says, “That moment you have so much to do, that you decide to take a nap instead?” It definitely rings true. If you can’t evaluate and establish what there is to do and what’s most important, all you’ll do is give yourself anxiety.

    •    Make a List. Write down every single thing you need to get done in the day. Now this might freak you out a bit if you start writing down menial things. So stick to the necessities. Stick to what’s important. Chances are you won’t forget to refill the toilet paper roll in the restroom if you’re already cleaning your bathroom. Don’t drown yourself with the worries of tiny tasks.

    •    Eliminate the Unnecessary. If you’re writing things down just for the sake of writing them, you’ll never get anything done. If it’s not necessary for you to do today, don’t do it.

    •    Give Each Task a Numerical Order. What’s most important? What task has the most pressing deadline? What have you just been putting off for too long? Think about what item trumps another, and give it a number.

Get Yo Mind Right. It’s all about the mindset. Is your glass half empty, or half full? What’s that quote? “She turned her ‘can’ts’ into ‘cans’ and her ‘to do’ list into plans…” or something like that. If you go into something with the thought that it’s going to be miserable, guess what? It’s going to be miserable. Instead of saying, “This shit sucks,” try saying, “this shit isn’t so bad.” See? I bet you feel better already!

Schedule it Out. If you go into things without a plan, you’re more likely to give up midway. Try coming up with a schedule of execution, and reward your hard work with small planned breaks. Hell, you can even Bribe Yourself. Promise yourself a treat if you complete a task within a certain amount of time. It will be like a fun little game! If you’re chubby like me, a chocolate bribe should do just fine! Plan to work in little blocks of time (for example; an hour on, fifteen minutes off. )

Distractions Be Gone. This one is the hardest. You can’t exactly get motivated to get out of bed and get moving if you’re stuck on Facebook, now can you? Turn it off. Swipe those distractions off the screen. Turn your phone off. Log out of your email. Turn the notifications off. When you eliminate the distractions, you can without a doubt complete tasks quicker and more efficiently.

Try Some Tunes. Personally, nothing gets me more motivated than blasting some good tunes (Fleetwood Mac and Heart are my personal favorites.) Tune out the world around you, and get to it.

These are just some things that help me get it together. Have more ideas or is there something else that really works for you? Drop a comment below! Until then, happy doing!

Four Ways to Beat Stress Before Stress Beats You

The universe is really pulling me lately. My arms are stretched wide and I’m suddenly being pulled in every direction. Honestly, I’m loving it, but I’m also kind of stressed out. But I guess really, who wouldn’t be?

Though I haven’t opened up much about it on the blog yet, I’m like REALLY busy.  On top of my writing and digital content responsibilities for work, I’m also managing a new brand, preparing for a huge site launch, getting product ready for a huge creative entrepreneur event I’m a part of, preparing materials for a large class I’m teaching at the same event, and providing photography services for various clients. And I’m doing all of this while still managing the typical household and parenting duties that granted, aren’t exactly required  of me- but I really enjoy. I’m freaking swamped.

I’ve truly and honestly always really loved being busy.  I’m always on the go- something I’m quite sure I’ve had handed down from my mom, and I can never take a chill pill. Like ever. The problem is often at times, I leave myself overwhelmed. And obviously I DON’T really love THAT. I wanted to share with you guys exactly how I bring myself back to center when it feel’s like my whole world is spinning 100mph.

Give Yourself a Break

If you’ve read my post 25 SIMPLE WAYS TO INCORPORATE SELF-CARE INTO YOUR DAY, you know I’m a big fan of self-care. Sometimes the best way to care for yourself is to take a break, slow down, and tune out the noise.  Shut down the computer. Turn off your cell. Hell, hide in your car on your lunch hour and watch some Netflix if you have to! Do what YOU need to do to get some relief.  A little bit of rest goes a long way!

Recognize

You? You’re a BADASS and you know it! Take a look in the mirror and give yourself some recognition. You know the one thing that will truly minimize the effects of stress?! The reality that even though life is stressful, YOU’RE KILLIN IT! Instead of focusing on how far behind you are, think about how much you’ve accomplished. And just give yourself some gratitude and a nice pat on the back! Sometimes it’s all you need to keep you far away from a funk.

Reward Yourself

Badasses deserve stuff. So if the funk is nearing, reward yourself! Nothing can help you from feeling too defeated quite like a relaxing massage, or a brand new pair of shoes. Rewarding yourself does more than just make you feel good. It makes all that hard work and busy schedule tackling seem truly worth it! You don’t have to completely splurge. Even the smallest something can scream, “I appreciate me!” Badasses know their worth!

Delegate

You know how many loads of laundry I’ve done in the past three weeks? None. That’s right. I haven’t done a single one.  But you know who has? My partner. And thank goodness for him, because he’s helping to make my life a hell of a lot more easy. Just because you’re too swamped to even think about tackling that hamper full of socks that’s needed mating  for a week now, doesn’t mean it can’t get done. A sink of dishes doesn’t have to be the straw that breaks the camel’s back. Life’s tasks don’t have to go undone. ASK FOR HELP. And don’t you dare feel bad about it.

Seriously though, I get it. You’re tired. I’m tired. We’re all tired. Life isn’t sunshine and daisies and there’s no need to pretend it is. We can however, shield ourselves a bit from the thick of it all and take the proper time and steps to keep our sanity in tact! You’re mind and body will thank you.