I read a quote last week from the late Haim Ginott. He was a renowned child psychologist, author, psychotherapist, and parent educator. He said, “Children are like wet cement, whatever falls on them makes an impression.” His words seemed to perforate my soul, as my immediate thought’s went to Riley. And it made me wonder, how much of our energy is reflected by our sons and daughters? How much of our negativity is absorbed? How do we break down the walls that we build up unintentionally? Walls that are built with the objective to enforce boundaries, respect, and instill discipline- but may inadvertently act as blockades preventing our love and positive intentions from shining through. How does one become a positive parent?
I often find myself guilty of focusing too much on shaping Riley into the person he’s to become one day. I worry so much about where he’s at intellectually, socially, and behaviorally, and I forget to focus on his self-esteem and what he needs from me emotionally. Sometimes I hear him say things like, “I’m not good at this” or “I just can’t do it.” And that breaks my heart! It’s phrases like these that make me realize that as parents, we have such a great influence on not only our child’s success, but also the way they feel about themselves.
So let’s influence it correctly!
The truth is, we as parents mold our children’s self esteem. Kids who know that their parents believe in them are more likely to believe in themselves too. And kids who believe in themselves, are kids who succeed. Don’t our kids deserve that? To feel our love and support around them and then in turn have the ability to reflect that onto themselves as well? It starts with us. It start’s with words of encouragement and high fives. It starts with smiles, loud cheers, and compliments. As adults, we have the ability to self-motivate and self-encourage. But children don’t have those abilities until they are taught and modeled.
I want to put more of an emphasis on building Riley up, promoting positivity, and empowering him, so I’ve compiled a list of twenty-five positive affirmations . These affirmations are wide in variety and can be used in a multitude of situations. It’s my goal to start incorporating these affirmations into our everyday life, in hopes of really making a difference in the kind of ‘impressions’ being made by our little ‘wet cement.’ After all, studies show that the warmth, proactive teaching, inductive discipline, and positive involvement reflected in supportive parenting techniques, drastically mitigates the chances of family adversity later on. And I more than anything want to raise our children to be happy, self-aware, and confident human beings.
1. “YOU MAKE ME LAUGH!”
2. “YOU DID THAT SO WELL!”
3. “YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!”
4. “YOU MAKE ME SO HAPPY!”
5. “YOU’RE INCREDIBLE!”
6. “YOU’RE GOING TO BE SO SUCCESSFUL!”
7. “YOU DID THAT ALL BY YOURSELF? WOW!”
8. “I HAVE THE BEST LITTLE BOY/GIRL IN THE WORLD!”
9. “YOU ARE SO TALENTED!”
10. “THE WORLD IS A BETTER PLACE WITH YOU IN IT!”
11. “I LOVE YOUR CREATIVITY!”
12. “WHAT A GREAT JOB!”
13. “YOU’RE SO SMART!”
14. “GOOD THINKING!”
15. “I’M SO PROUD OF YOU!”
16. “YOU HAVE THE BEST IDEAS!”
17. “YOU ARE SO SPECIAL!”
18. “YOU HAVE SUCH A BIG HEART!”
19. “YOU SET A GREAT EXAMPLE FOR THOSE AROUND YOU!”
20. “YOU’RE MY HERO!”
21. “I BELIEVE IN YOU!”
22. “YOU’RE SO HELPFUL!”
23. “I’M LUCKY TO HAVE YOU.”
24. “YOU ARE SO GOOD AT THAT!”
25. “I LOVE SPENDING TIME WITH YOU.”
You can give them a try too! Let me know how you notice the effects in the comments below! Here’s to positive parenting!